Hathaway Martin Barry, known as “Hap,” died on March 3 after a lengthy illness at the Hamptons Center in Southampton. He was 61 years old.
Born June 11, 1951, he was the son of Robert Ira Barry and Betty Fay (Perkins) Barry. He was raised in North Haven and lived most of his life in Sag Harbor.
When he was 12, Mr. Barry barely survived a 75-foot fall from a cliff in the Idaho Snake River Canyon. He spent six months in a hospital, the first three months in a coma. After many surgeries and much rehabilitation, he was released. The accident affected his entire life, said the family, and while he grew into adulthood, he did considerably more rehabilitation, therapy and schooling.
As an adult Mr. Barry worked at Baron’s Cove Inn & Baron’s Marina, owned and operated by his uncle, Frank Barry, and his father.
Mr. Barry enjoyed doing things for other people, said the family, reading, collecting, and watching television. He especially liked watching shows that focused on cooking. He was attracted to new kitchen gadgets that would enable him to make meals as they were shown on these shows. He also liked picking lottery numbers.
“During the last few months, when he would win, it was, such a joy to see his familiar grin,” said the family.
In addition to his parents, Mr. Barry was predeceased by his sister, Beth Marie Barry. He is survived by Beth’s daughter, Morgan Gallagher, as well as two half brothers, Robert H. Barry and Trebor C. Barry. He is also survived by step-siblings Bonnie Wingate Jackson, Natasha Sigmund, Derek Ebeling-Koning, Gwen Waddington and his former step-mother, Nada Barry.
A celebration of Mr. Barry’s life will be held around his birthday in June.
“Meanwhile, Hap would say to his family and friends, ‘Adios, Kiddo,’” the family said.
The family asks that memorial donations be made to the Sag Harbor Volunteer Ambulance Corps.