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Pierson Middle School Student Calls on Classmates to Stick Up for Others in Anti-Bullying Film

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By Tessa Raebeck 

Bullying has come to the forefront of the national dialogue in recent years, but it’s always been a constant among seventh graders.

“We really wanted to take a stand against bullying,” said Olivia Corish, a seventh grader at Pierson Middle School, whose latest short film, “A Cry for Help,” has made waves as a statement against both being a bully and being a bystander.

Through the film, which was shot entirely on her iPhone and edited using Final Cut Pro, Olivia called on her classmates to be “upstanders,” or someone who “steps in and says you’ve gotta stop,” she said Tuesday.

In the film, shot at Pierson, a young girl played by Anna Schiavoni, Olivia’s best friend and go-to lead actor, traverses the school day as best she can, but is frequently intercepted by a herd of bullies as she navigates the halls.

Playing the “victim,” Anna’s character struggles when she has a sign saying “Loser” taped to her back, is not picked for a sports team in gym class and is first forgotten and later ridiculed when another girl is passing out invitations to her party. As she tries to get through the day, the victim is laughed at, pushed or completely isolated. Even taking a sip of water is dangerous, as a passerby shoves her head into the fountain.

Shot in black and white, the YouTube film is reminiscent of the silent films of the 1920s. There is no dialogue, only sad music, “I’m in Here” by Sia Furler and Sam Dixon.

In one scene, the victim is putting on lip gloss in the bathroom at Pierson as one of the bullies looks on. A dialogue frame pops onto the screen with words said by the bully, “Why are you wearing lip gloss? It’s not going to make you look any prettier.”

The decision to keep the film silent was in part logistical, as play practice was going on at Pierson while the film was shot, and audio “can be really hard,” Olivia said, but it was also symbolic.

“We also thought that our video shouldn’t be dominated by words. It’s kind of the small things that hurt,” Olivia said. “It’s the silent things—like maybe someone just bumping into you or laughing behind your back—and we thought that that really didn’t need any words to describe it.”

The turning point in the film comes when the lip gloss bully is confronted by the “hero,” played by Gabriella Knab, who serves as the story’s upstander.

The inspiration for the hero upstander came from a tolerance and anti-bullying conference Olivia and other Pierson students attended at the Holocaust Memorial and Tolerance Center in Glen Cove.

Every year, the center invites student leaders from across Long Island to participate in the half-day conference, at which they hear from a keynote speaker, then break into small groups to exchange ideas and action plans of how to combat bullying and prejudice in their schools.

“We try to be [upstanders],” Anna said Tuesday.

“As much as possible,” added Olivia.

“A Cry for Help” premiered May 10 at the inaugural Young Filmmakers’ Festival at the Hayground School in Bridgehampton. In the weeks since, it has received 135 views on YouTube and has been widely shared by Sag Harbor parents on Facebook.

Anna and Olivia, however, are more concerned with the tangible response to the film’s message they have seen in school.

“They have really loved it,” Olivia said of her classmates. “I think it really inspired a lot of them to take a stand against the small bullying that happens.”

Anna said she too has been inspired by her role as the victim in the film.

After a school year of watching a certain bully in her class pick on another student, stealing his food and being generally unpleasant, she decided to step in. Anna asked the victim whether he enjoys having his food stolen, to which he replied no (perhaps unsurprisingly).

“He was like, ‘No, not really, but I think it’s just one of those things that you let happen,’” she recalled. “And I’m like, ‘No. You’re not supposed to let that happen.’”

During the class period in which his food is traditionally stolen, the day Anna spoke up, the boy instead reportedly said to his bully, “Actually, I think I want to eat my food today.”

As of Tuesday, the bully was no longer asking him for food.

“And now it stops, like in my film,” Olivia said of her friend’s story. “Just like that.”

 

FILM URL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=An_ZDfsr_pg

Middle Schoolers Learn How To Be “Upstanders”

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By Claire Walla

“The world is a dangerous place because of the people who stand by the side and do nothing.”

This sentiment — a quote attributed to Albert Einstein – was part of a student presentation shown to Sag Harbor School Board members at a meeting last Wednesday, November 2.

Its message — a call to action — represents the crux of the issue highlighted “The Middle School Tolerance and Anti-Bullying Conference,” a workshop 20 Pierson middle schoolers attended last Wednesday, October 26 at the tail end of Red Ribbon Week.

The event, which was put on by the Holocaust Center in Commack, brought together approximately 200 students from across Long Island, and it placed an emphasis on those aspects of the bullying cycle that extend beyond merely the bully himself and his victim.

Pierson students Casey Grubb, Alex Kamper, Isabelle Peters and Ariana Moustakas — all members of the middle school student council or class representatives — attended this year’s conference — the first Pierson has participated in. And they spoke about it before the school board last week.

“I want to be an upstander,” said Peters, a seventh-grader.

An “upstander,” she clarified, is a student who makes an effort to step in when someone else is being bullied. She said she didn’t want to “just watch kids get bullied, but do something about it.” Her classmates nodded in agreement and declared they too would set out to be upstanders.

Middle School Assistant Principal Barbara Bekermus said she wanted student council members to attend the conference as part of their training in student leadership.

“I felt like student council should really be the leaders and the role models for the school,” she explained.

And until this point, she continued, Pierson’s student council hadn’t been a very large fixture on campus.

“Even though we had leaders in name, they didn’t really fill that role,” she said.

According to teacher Eileen Caulfield — the advisor for the middle school student government and student chaperoned at the workshop — the conference had a positive impact on the students. And perhaps the aspect that made the most impact was the fact they were able to listen to stories told by other students. In addition to describing tales of bullying, four teenage speakers told personal stories that touched on issues like depression, homosexuality and the suicide of a loved one.

“That was hard for them, to listen to these kids who went through these experiences but were able to get to the other side — better,” Caulfield said.

But she said it inspired the group to think of the culture at Pierson Middle School differently.

“When our kids mixed with the other 200 [students], they had to come up with ways for how they could go back to our school and try to prevent this from happening,” said Caulfield.

The students now meet regularly on Fridays with Caulfield during their academic support period and — since October’s conference — they have discussed anti-bullying and tolerance-based measures that can be put in place at Pierson.

The middle school will soon have a “bully box,” where students will be able to place anonymous reports about inappropriate behavior they might witness on campus. Bekermus said one student even organized a “P.S. I Love You” day amongst her friends. The idea was inspired by a speaker at the conference who created the event at her school in memory of her father, who committed suicide.

Bekermus continued to say that the biggest takeaway from the conference is in encouraging bystanders to be “upstanders.”

“Ninety percent of the power lies in the people who are watching it happen,” she noted.

Her hope is that those who attended the conference, those already in positions of student leadership, will take this message to heart.

Effort to Fight Bullying

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By Claire Walla


Vanessa Leggard began to notice her daughter’s behavior gradually changing at the end of last year, the tail end of sixth grade.

“She had a really short fuse,” Leggard explained. “And I began to notice that, for about two months, she wasn’t invited anywhere and she was by herself on the weekends.”

Leggard said it was odd because her daughter is typically very spontaneous and outgoing. After some coaxing, Leggard was able to get her daughter to talk about the issue.

That’s when she realized her daughter was being bullied at school.

Her daughter’s friends would talk in front of her in the cafeteria, but would not invite her into the conversation, Leggard explained. Or they would post a photo album on Facebook titled “my friends” but not include certain girls.

“In their world, that’s so huge,” Leggard added. When a child is bullied, she continued, “It dominates everything. And before you know it, they can’t think about anything else — they can’t do anything.”

After delving into the issue last year, Leggard reached out to about 15 middle school parents and learned that almost every one of them admitted that their child had been affected by bullying in some way. So, as she announced at a school board meeting last month, she has decided to tackle the issue in a significant way this school year.

Leggard and other parents have recently organized to urge administrators to implement more interactive anti-bullying programs in the coming school year in an effort to have students themselves better understand where the problems originate.

“I’m convinced that the kids don’t understand what bullying is,” she continued. “And that’s a problem.”

Sag Harbor School District Superintendent Dr. John Gratto said bullying is often addressed by teachers and administrators as an issue of tolerance, which is a topic embedded in every teacher’s yearlong curriculum.

“I don’t even think [teachers] talk about it in the context of bullying,” he said. “Teachers confront inappropriate behavior; and there are punitive consequences, as well.”

There are “a dozen or so” incidences that get reported and dealt with each year, Dr. Gratto added, and there are a number of steps the district takes to prevent problems from occurring, including administering programs on tolerance and setting up one-on-one discussions between students and teachers and guidance counselors.

Dr. Gratto admitted it’s an issue that is typically more prevalent at the middle school level, which is why Pierson Middle School Assistant Principal Barbara Beckermus is invested in developing tactics to prevent bullying. In fact, when she first came to Pierson five years ago, Beckermus said there was little in place that addressed anti-bullying tactics directly.

She has since asked three teachers each year to be “team leaders” — there to guide faculty and students on issues involving bullying — for every grade level in the middle school and has been more proactive in coaching teachers to address inappropriate social behaviors both in and out of the classroom. This year, Beckermus added she is currently in the process of developing programs on specific types of bullying, addressing issues like racism and “relational aggression,” which is mostly seen among girls.

“It’s become a little more difficult [to prevent bullying] because of the Internet and technology,” Beckermus added. “The minute students walk out of the classroom with their smartphones, it’s no longer under our control. In the past, kids could at least go home and breathe a sigh of relief.”

“I think parents really want to do something about [cyber-bullying],” she added. “But they didn’t go through it themselves, so they don’t really understand it.”

As Sag Harbor School Board President Mary Anne Miller sees it, the degree to which students at Pierson Middle School are bullied “is somewhat normal.” She clarified, “While I don’t believe bullying is normal, it’s something that’s existed for some time in society and I think [relational aggression at Pierson] is nothing out of the ordinary for kids this age.”

The real culprit when it comes down to it is technology, according to Miller.

“I don’t think parents are as engaged and aware of these technologies as they should be,” she said. “Situations will escalate in the evening and then kids come to school after these horrible incidents online … How does the school police that?”

Combating bullying largely comes down to the parents, according to Miller.

“I just feel like unsupervised electronic use is a big part of the problem,” she said.

Beckermus continued to explain that the school has held workshops for parents through the Parent Teacher Association (PTA), but few parents ever show up.

“I guess there really could be more of that,” she added, referring to parent involvement. “It’s like that old adage, ‘It takes a village to raise a child.’ It really does. When everyone does something [to fix a problem], that problem has to decrease.”

While Leggard believes the school should be doing more to actively make students aware of the different types of behaviors that can be considered bullying, she agrees that parents play an important role in preventing such behavior. (She added that she has even interacted with parents who have refused to address instances of bullying related to their child.)

Leggard said she recognizes that “relational aggression” is nothing new, and that bullying is a common developmental phase for some junior high school students.

“Yes, it will blow over and it’s not the end of the world,” she noted.

“I foresee issues for this seventh grade class,” Leggard told the Sag Harbor school board at a meeting last month.  ”If the school chooses not to do anything, I’m still going to do something off school grounds,” she added.  Leggard said she will continue to contact parents to address anti-bullying techniques.

While Leggard has been assured by Pierson administrators that the school has hired a new middle school guidance counselor this year, she said the school’s efforts to combat these problems remain to be seen.  She concluded, “I think kids are still confused with what bullying really is.”