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Reunited With A Ring

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By Claire Walla

There are very few things that can upset a new bride.  But, hearing that her husband has just lost his wedding ring is one of them.

In 2007, three years after his wedding and still a relative newlywed, Nick Kardaras decided to go for a swim.  He and his new bride, Lucy, were living on the North Fork at the time, so he drove his car down to Nassau Point beach in Cutchogue and prepared, like usual, for a late-afternoon dip.  “I normally go swimming at dusk,” he said.

But, this aquatic excursion was different from the start.

“I hate to say this, but there was a sketchy-looking character parked by my car,” Nick explained.  At the time, Nick said he was driving a Jeep with doors that didn’t quite lock.  While he had been in the habit of taking his wedding band off before diving into the surf—advice his wife said she instated from the start—this time he thought differently of it.  “This guy was drinking a Colt 45,” he continued, which peaked his concern.  “I thought, I’m not going to go swimming and leave my ring behind with this guy!”

Nick decided to wear his ring all the way into the water.  At first, his plan seemed to work.  The ring stayed bound to his finger as he tread water and propelled through the current.

“But, as I was swimming back, it started to fall.  It was almost like slow-motion,” he described, saying that he watched his platinum, diamond-encrusted ring sink down to the sandy bay bottom.

As if jogging his brain for an appropriate euphemism, Nick momentarily paused when asked how his wife reacted to the news, but eventually admitted, “I was in the dog house for a certain period of time.”  (It was a phrase Lucy herself repeated.)

Not willing to give-in to the notion that he had just lost his wedding ring, Nick went back to the site every day for about a month.  Each time, he would descend the steps that led to the beach and count precisely 45 steps out and four steps to the side until he was nearly chest-deep in the water.  Armed merely with a pair of goggles and a pan, which he used to scoop-up the sand, he searched for the lost ring.  To no avail.

“I’ve had this empty void on my finger for the past few years,” he said in a recent interview.  He and his wife had talked about getting a replacement band, but this diamond-encrusted ring had sentimental value for them.  The two had spent a lot of time in Greece (Nick speaks the language fluently) and had purchased the ring there.  In fact, he said it was inspired by Greek design.  In the end, he Lucy essentially put-off finding an adequate replacement.  “In some weird way, I kind of held-out hope that I was going to get it again,” Nick said.

The landscape changed in 2009.  About a year and a half ago, Nick was contacted by someone who claimed to have recovered his lost ring.  No, not that ring.  His high school graduation ring.

“I had forgotten that I had even had a school ring!” Nick explained.  He assumes he lost the piece of jewelery during what he called a “night of recreation” at a bar in Binghampton, where he often went to visit friends.  As it turns out, the discovery happened shortly after a tragic shooting at an immigration center in the area, when a local man with a metal detector was looking for shell casings and just happened to come across the ring—buried in six inches of sand, where it had been for 21 years.  The man gave it to Nick’ high school alumni association, which sent it to the East Ender.

“I thought that I was on a good roll, finding rings,” the current Sag Harbor resident explained.  So, when he noticed a truck driving through the Sag Harbor area advertising metal-detecting services, he introduced himself to the metal detector himself, long-time Sag Harbor resident David Cosgrove, and thought he’d put Cosgrove’s expertise to the test.

Last Thursday, July 15 Cosgrove and his metal detector accompanied Nick, his wife, Lucy, and their twin sons, Ari and Alexi, to the site of his ill-fated swim four years before.  After descending the steps to Nassau Point beach, they counted 45 steps out and four steps to the side.  “I remembered the numbers,” Nick said.  “I had kept them in my head all those years.”

Cosgrove had previously implored the family not to get their hopes up.  Though he had discovered plenty of precious items before, he emphasized there’s never any telling what the sands will turn up.  Besides, most of the rings he’d found were dirtied or split in two.  In the first two scoops the scavengers recovered a rusty nail.  But the third time was, as they say, the charm.

“He found it in about 10 minutes!” Nick beamed.

“I was just overjoyed,” Lucy added, saying that the public beach was filled with people cheering as Nick slipped the platinum band back on his finger.  Coincidentally, she said she and Nick had been thinking about buying a replacement ring just this year.  She pondered buying one as a Christmas gift, or even a September birthday present for her husband.  So, in a way, this fated discovery happened “just in the nick of time.”

In addition to replacing the void that plagued his left hand, Nick was excited by the fact that the bay had kept the ring “in pristine condition.”   He wanted to thank Cosgrove for his efforts and asked him how much he should pay him for his services.  To his surprise, Cosgrove declined payment.  (He also politely said he would “pass on the offer” to be interviewed for this article.)

Instead, Nick recalled, “he said just pay it forward.”

Obituaries February 4, 2010

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John M. Ring

John M. Ring, a veteran of World War II’s Battle of the Bulge, died at his home in Noyac on Tuesday, February 2. He was 87 years old. Born in Brooklyn, N.Y. on March 16, 1922, he was the son of Alphonse G. and Marie (Mallon) Ring.

A graduate of St. Augustin’s and Fordham University, Mr. Ring was a former vice president of the Williamsburg Savings Bank.

He was a veteran of the U. S. Army, being drafted in 1942 at the age of 20, and served through 1945. His unit, the 610th Tank Destroyer Battalion, shipped out in June 1944, and landed on Utah Beach during the invasion of Normandy. They were assigned to support the 80th Infantry Division in Patton’s Third Army. Later that year, Ring’s battalion participated in the bitter cold, halting the German advance at the Battle of the Bulge. Receiving shrapnel wounds, Mr. Ring was awarded the Bronze Star and the Purple Heart.

Mr. Ring was a member of the Sag Harbor Knights of Columbus.

He is survived by his wife, the former Jane Fearon, and their children, Marie Levins (Craig) of East Northport, L.I.; Noel Ring; Michael Ring (Katherine) of La Canada, Calif.; Gerard Ring (Suzanne) of Montclair, N.J.; Jane Coppola (David) of Scotia, N.Y.; and Elizabeth Ring (Erik Petersen) of Roswell, Ga.

He was predeceased by a brother, Tim. He is survived by a sister-in-law Doris Ring of Hempstead, L.I. He is also survived by 16 grandchildren, three great-grandchildren, two nieces and one nephew.

Knights of Columbus services will be held tonight, Thursday, at Yardley & Pino Funeral Home in Sag Harbor. Mass will be held Friday, February 5, at 11 a.m. at St. Andrews RC Church.

In lieu of flowers the family asks that memorial donations be made to the Dominican Sisters Family Health Service or East End Hospice.


Camille J. Cafiso

Camille J. Cafiso, a resident of East Hampton for 46 years, died at Southampton Hospital on January 26. She was 73 years old.

Born in the Bronx on July 23, 1937, she was the daughter of Dominic and Lena (Fiorelli) Cardoso.

Mrs. Cafiso attended East Hampton High School. She was a homemaker and an avid walker.

Mrs. Cafiso was predeceased by her husband, Vincent Cafiso, Sr. She is survived by children Lorraine Fiigon of Fort Myers, Fla., Catherine Cafiso of East Hampton and Vincent Cafiso, Jr., of East Meadow, L.I. She is also survived by brothers Anthony Ricci of East Hampton and Dominic Cardoso of East Hampton; three grandchildren and four nieces and nephews.

Services were Friday, January 29 at Yardley and Pino Funeral Home, with a Mass on Saturday, January 30 at Most Holy Trinity Church in East Hampton. Interment followed at Most Holy Trinity Cemetery.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to the East Hampton Village Ambulance Association, 1 Cedar St. East Hampton, NY 11937, or Most Holy Trinity Church, 79 Buell La., East Hampton,NY 11937.


Joseph R. Comfort, Jr.

Joseph R. Comfort, Jr., formerly of Sag Harbor, died on January 28 in Palm Bay, Fla., where he had been living for the past five years. He was 53 years old.

Born in Southampton on July 29, 1956, he was the son of Joseph R. and Irene (DeSanti) Comfort, Sr.

Mr. Comfort was an auto mechanic and an honorary member of the Sag Harbor Volunteer Fire Department.

In addition to his mother, he is survived by his children, Shawn M. Comfort of Hampton Bays, Kimberly A. Comfort of Hampton Bays and Jack E. Comfort of Florida.

Remains were cremated.


Katharine Williams Grant

Katharine Williams Grant of Washington, D.C., died peacefully on January 17 at home. She was 85.

Born in Utica, New York, to Henry D. Williams, an attorney and New York State senator, and Mary F. Jones, she was educated at St. Timothy’s School in Catonsville, Maryland, and Radcliffe College in Boston.

In 1943, she married David Grant, and eventually settled in Englewood, N.J. They later divorced and she continued to live there, raising a son and caring for her mother. Later, she studied art at Columbia University, Italian language and culture in Perugia, Italy, and worked at the Ford Foundation in New York City.

In 1982, she moved to Jarinu, Brazil, where she managed a dairy farm that had belonged to her aunt, overseeing its herd of Holstein cattle, creation of a lake and renovations to all buildings and fields. Accompanied by her German Shepherd, Apollo, she lived there until she returned to the U.S. for health reasons.

She is survived by her son, David W. Grant, and grandson, Byron James Grant.

Mrs. Grant loved Sag Harbor, where she spent extended periods of time with her sister, Margaret Williams Ginna, of Division Street. She will be buried next to Margaret in Oakland Cemetery, after a service at Christ Episcopal Church on Sunday, February 14, at 2 p.m.